Parenting: Avoid comparisons of children from conversations

Conversation surrounding exams preparation and exchanges of stresses levels always the top of the lists during these period. Followed by exchanges of holiday plans, and examination outcome and results when the fever period is over.

I recalled a conversation with an acquaintance before.
Me: " So glad examinations are over! Time for a well deserved break! "
A:" Oh my kids are still going tuition, preparing for  next year."
Me:" So soon?"
A:"Ya.So how did your kids fair this year? "
Me:"Ok,  Most important is he tried his best. "
A:"What is his score for Maths and Science? "

This is the typical conversation that i always avoid, and strongly discourage.  Simply because of it's possible impact on the morale and confidence of the children.

Very commonly parents love to compare notes to learn how their kids performed against others. However,  it maybe just as important to know this would pose a negative impact to our own children,  either feeding into their pride if their results were good
, or demoralized them if they did not perform well.

Instead it maybe a healthier conversation to just exchange on the best practice and whether the child's performance is up to parents expectations,  as every child is unique with varying potentials.

Children should be encouraged by setting goals according to their capabilities and encouraged to strive to achieve and outdo their last performance.

Besides,  what is there to compare? When the kids are not even in the same schools nor class! Totally absurd.