Parenting: The Best gift to our children maybe lifelong positive attributes and energy
Ever so often, we would consider toys or vacation trips as the most ideal gifts to our children. However, are these really the best gift we can offer? Will these gifts and memories be able to sustain their happiness and fulfill them a lifetime?
Other than luxury gifts, there are other gifts that parents could provide to our children, something that could benefit them a lifetime.
As most parents tend to plan and provide the best education, growing environment and enrichment programs to nuture the little precious. Care are also taken to ensure their childhood is well protected and shielded from any potential risks. Sometimes, such positive intentions may however bring about adverse effect. Over protection may result in lack of self confidence, over provision may result in dependency and lack of appreciation, over praising may lead to pride rendering the child less susceptible to accepting failure. As a Chinese saying goes, "No fall no grow", kids should be allowed little rooms of failure to learn and grow.
The best gift we could provide is probably instilling the gift of appreciation, independence and responsibility, positive energy or insight to life.
Allowing the child some room to help and take care of themselves in chores will train them some basic self care skills as well as develop their sense of responsibility. In return, they develop a sense of pride of their capabilities.
Building positive mannerism to thank people on favors, gift and companies would remind them to appreciate every little gifts and gestures received. In return, they learn gratitude, love and appreciation of people and life, and of things that they receive and enjoy.
Throw little challenges to the little ones, this could be ad simple as a new puzzle or ball game or little contests but refrain from engaging yourself to assist. Instead let them learn to overcome the challenge. In event they fail, these will deem the most valuable opportunities to coach and explain to them the emotions of disappointment as well as they skill of converting this negative emotions into positive energy. They should instead accept the other player is better, identify opponent's areas of success and improvise into his own learnings.
Bearing these traits in mind, this would be my basic guidelines for parenthood, and I hope you find this useful too. You are most welcomed to comment your insights as parenthood is a continuous stage of learning and exchanging.
Other than luxury gifts, there are other gifts that parents could provide to our children, something that could benefit them a lifetime.
As most parents tend to plan and provide the best education, growing environment and enrichment programs to nuture the little precious. Care are also taken to ensure their childhood is well protected and shielded from any potential risks. Sometimes, such positive intentions may however bring about adverse effect. Over protection may result in lack of self confidence, over provision may result in dependency and lack of appreciation, over praising may lead to pride rendering the child less susceptible to accepting failure. As a Chinese saying goes, "No fall no grow", kids should be allowed little rooms of failure to learn and grow.
The best gift we could provide is probably instilling the gift of appreciation, independence and responsibility, positive energy or insight to life.
Allowing the child some room to help and take care of themselves in chores will train them some basic self care skills as well as develop their sense of responsibility. In return, they develop a sense of pride of their capabilities.
Building positive mannerism to thank people on favors, gift and companies would remind them to appreciate every little gifts and gestures received. In return, they learn gratitude, love and appreciation of people and life, and of things that they receive and enjoy.
Throw little challenges to the little ones, this could be ad simple as a new puzzle or ball game or little contests but refrain from engaging yourself to assist. Instead let them learn to overcome the challenge. In event they fail, these will deem the most valuable opportunities to coach and explain to them the emotions of disappointment as well as they skill of converting this negative emotions into positive energy. They should instead accept the other player is better, identify opponent's areas of success and improvise into his own learnings.
Bearing these traits in mind, this would be my basic guidelines for parenthood, and I hope you find this useful too. You are most welcomed to comment your insights as parenthood is a continuous stage of learning and exchanging.
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